I have not logged on to IRC much today. I really could not be bothered. Since handing over ownership of the room to G, it’s felt like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. You just do not realize how much effort goes into running a room the size of #AdultsOnly, until you are made leader.
Now, the responsibility is no longer mine, I can relax again and actually enjoy the chat room.
I have always been open about myself in chat rooms. I have an online blog too. You are reading it. Whenever someone wants to know what I look like, I direct them here. It helps clear the air right from the beginning, because I don’t want to chat to someone who is shallow and narrow-minded. Just online to get turned on and talk dirty.
I am open about my disability. I have brittle bones. I am in a wheelchair. If you can’t handle that, then I don’t want to know you. The way I see it, let’s be open and honest from the beginning. That way, I am not setting myself up for a fall.
This may sound harsh, and cynical, or whatever. But it’s also the truth.
At the same time, this approach whittles away at the chances of a meaningful friendship to almost nothing. Don’t get me wrong, there are plenty of friends to be made on IRC, and over time you develop a kind of sixth sense which tells you exactly how far you can take a friendship with that person.
So now, the question that begs to be answered is this: If you cannot find a worthy friendship on IRC, where do you look? I don’t go clubbing. I hate the music, which is too loud and people get drunk and what not. I am not overly religious and do not attend church. I respect religion but have little time for those who express their beliefs over-exuberantly. Going shopping, everyone is in their own little world and on their own mission to buy what they want and need.
So where do you look? What do you do?
I guess our convo this morning planted some seeds *hugs tight*
Most of my ‘friends’ are either from work or from Uni. More acquintances than friends though. I believe ‘real’ friends for me, will not be more than 4 or 5 and only one lives here in Melbourne.
We sometimes go out for a quick drink from work on Fridays. Not more than an hour or so, but it breaks some ice….
I have, through the years, made some really good friends with some fellow bloggers too.
Thank-you for the candor and good will with which you write. I’d like to think that, you’re right – it’s probably best for those with “issues” pertaining to individuals with afflicitions and affirmities to quickly move on. The sad truth is that skin-deep beauty isn’t attractive once past the depth of the skin. Be well.