I was sitting in the bus today, on the way home from the hospital where I was getting my Aredia treatment and watching the traffic. Once again, thoughts consumed me, and I wondered exactly what I would do in such a situation.
What would I do if I had to see her in the car next to us, stopped at a traffic light? Would I ignore her and pretend not to have seen? Would I glare at her in anger? I don’t think I could greet her in a friendly manner. What would I do if I bumped into her at the shops? I could not shun her kids. They are not to blame for the whole mess and I think they are beautiful little angels.
But I could not speak to her.
She told me that any woman’s husband could lie naked on her couch and she would not touch them. Yet she took mine. I slept on that couch while he shared her bed. They broke up three months later, but the damage was done. Betrayal complete.
I will not sue her for breakdown of the marriage, but I don’t think I can forgive her either.
Maybe one day.
But not now.
It's my life ... 
Hugs, Truds.
You know, I could never get how a person forgives another just by deciding one fine day that he/she should. For me forgiveness is an automatic thing…. It comes slowly and without warrant- sometimes in an hour sometimes, years.
Why is it so important that we forgive everyone?Don’t some peole deserve to be ‘not’ forgiven?
Better not to hold on to those momories, that’s why forgiveness is probably best because then you can let it go and not let it bring you down any longer? It’s horrible how you were treated, but it’s true what everyone seems to be saying.. you are getting back to your good old self.. which was being suppressed and your identity taken away by a fool. You are so much better off, so glad to hear that you have more to your life..
I cannot forgive, bro. Not now. I have let go of the memories. By writing about it here, it’s like a form of release and a method to work through things. But to forgive and pretend that nothing happened? Sorry. Not going to happen.