Hopefully I got you thinking with last night’s post. Are you aware of such an influence in your life? Are you going to take action with this knowledge? You may not even realize that you are already taking action.
For me, the knowledge dawned early this year. I know that I have strong personality. I have discovered who I am, what I want and where I want to go. What I did not expect was the way my personality rubbed off on others. People generally like and respect self confidence in a person, but there are also those that are quite willing to allow those people to take the lead.
Which is well and good when both parties are aware of what is happening. As mentioned, it is not so good when one side is not aware of the power exchange.
Once I was aware of the influence I had, I was able to understand what possibly went awry in previous friendships. I am not going to go into detail. That is a little personal, but needless to say, it was not the only factor in why they failed.
I am back on IRC chat. The secret is out. My new nickname is Audrey. After Audrey Parker, played by actress Emily Rose, in my favourite series, Haven.
Anyhow, I have seen how I can affect people twice already now. The first time was helping someone with relationship problems. I know I pushed too hard. I just wanted him to see that he wanted to do what he knew was right. He did thank me for my advice, but we have not spoken since.
I am once again seeing it in action. This time, I have backed off totally and just letting the friendship go wherever it takes us. I value good friends and this is one friendship that I do not want to ruin …